No. Such a small little word. Only two letters. So easy to say… or is it?
Many times we can be ‘people pleasers’ – wanting to make everyone happy, wanting to be liked, wanting to be helpful, wanting to be needed.
However, when we say yes out of this place of feeling obligated to please, we can end up feeling frustrated, upset, even resentful.
When we don’t respect our own feelings, time and schedule, we can project this onto those we say yes to, creating barriers in our relationships, especially the one with our self.
You can say no. Not only is saying no okay, but it is healthy as well.
If there is something you do not want to do, or do not have the time to do, or you feel it is putting you out, just say NO.
You do not need to explain it. No IS an answer.
By saying yes when you really want to say no, you are not doing anyone any favors. Your energy isn’t the right intent to carry out the request, neither for the one you are helping nor yourself.
Respect your time first, and others will follow. You set the stage for how you are treated.
Create healthy boundaries. What do those look like for you? Where is it you want, need, desire to say no? Listen to your inner wisdom, and allow yourself to just say no.
Oceans of Love & Permission to say No,
Bobbie Jo (BJ)